Three Kinesiologists go into Werribee Gorge…
Two have a fear of heights, two experience hysterical fits of laughter.
All three go off track and get slightly lost on a rather hot Summer’s day.
And… one gets dehydrated/sunstroke.
I was the one who became dehydrated / sunstroked. Why?
Because I have a tendency to push myself too hard.
The reason I was pushing myself so hard at the Gorge was so that – in my perception – I wouldn’t be a burden on others.
So I wouldn’t put people out. It was my fault.
There was a subconscious pattern, an addiction to a behaviour of being hard on myself.
We are fascinating beings
We have our conscious ways of behaving – all the stuff we are aware of.
We also have this massive database of subconscious stuff, which pretty much can override what we actually want.
Our subconscious holds masses of behaviour patterns, ingrained in our beings.
It recognises a familiar scenario and acts accordingly. Whether you consciously want it to or not.
Being hard on myself was something I’d been doing since I was a little kid
In order to to be perfect.
Until the last few years of self-exploration through Kinesiology and other means, I hadn’t realised that this compulsion to be perfect was having a detrimental effect on me.
It can be of benefit, like anything. All things have two sides.
However, in order to be perfect, I was always hard on myself, whether I did ‘well’ or not.
I used to believe that this was an awesome motivation to get things done and do them better than anyone, so no-one could criticise me.
But, I have since realised that I am my biggest critic. Nothing I did ever satisfied me. I was never good enough. My best was never good enough.
Those of you who have had Kinesiology sessions with me, will undoubtedly, at some point or another, have been tested for this.
I put the statement to your body: “My best is good enough”
I cannot think of a single time – for myself or clients – when this has not shown as an issue that needs some work.
When I am muscle testing, it’s like another language.
Your body bypasses your conscious mind that says: “Yes I do think my best is good enough”.
Your muscles direct me straight into those subconscious patterns to say: “ No, no, no, my best isn’t good enough”.
After testing “My best is good enough”, I will see what percentage your being believes you need to be performing at to achieve your best.
The highest with any one client was 1,756%.
So that person believed they needed to do the work of 17 and a half people in order to be good enough.
Some people are surprised by these percentages and it becomes a good wake up call, that they believe this is what they need to do, to “achieve”.
Is there another way we can achieve the same results?
In the midst of my dehydration/sunstroke at Werribee Gorge, I was shown how hard I was pushing myself and that it was
a) to my detriment; and
b) I could get where I was going in a much gentler kinder way.
The last part of our journey was mostly uphill. I was only able to walk 10 or 20 feet and then have to stop, with head pounding and out of breath.
One of my fellow adventurers pointed out to me, that I was going quite fast. She said, “Take your time.”
I realised that in my eagerness not to be a burden and hold my fellow adventurers up, I was actually making myself worse.
I took on her advice, slowed my pace and was able to go further without stopping, and achieve my aim with gentleness, rather than making myself push harder and harder.
My subconscious patterning was driving my actions
That pattern of belief formulated and stored in my body from a young age: that in order to achieve, I had to push myself.
The subconscious is like a database.
It recognises a situation and acts accordingly. So rather than realising that I am older these days, and I have worked through many many things about pushing myself hard and perfectionism, my subconscious acted according to the pattern.
When I am in a Kinesiology session with a client, something will often come up that has come up previously. Sometimes, the same thing many times. Or they may have dealt with it in other ways.
We can become baffled at these same or similar issues coming up over and over again.
I like to call these issues (often subconscious patterns) our Life Lessons
They can be alarmingly obvious, or they can creep up and bite you on the bum when you least expect it.
There are many aspects to these patterns or issues.
And each time we are faced with them, we peel off another layer and are left with tools to better deal with a similar situation in the future.
So do you have any issues or patterns in your life that seem to keep coming up over and over again?
What do you want to do about it?
If you’d like to try Kinesiology to clear old patterns, give Jordie a call on 0420 649 611 or email email@example.com